Tuesday, January 1, 2008

why some relationships dont work?

Sometimes it is next to impossible to find someone who's right for us - and someone we are right for! So when it happens, we usually get so psyched that we don't even mind missing out on few things for them.

It's totally normal to look at the world through rose-colored glasses in the early stages of a relationship. We don’t miss a chance to express our love – in fact, we look out for such chances with eagle eyes and seize them, or, we create those chances if we don’t get one!

How angelic we are in those stages! We take pride in compromising the nicest things. We do what our partner likes, and earnestly prevent what they dislike. And ultimately thats how it is supposed to be when we call it a relationship.

But this make up slowly starts to wear off when a whole gambit of questions pops up in our mind once we cross those initial stages– “Why doesn’t my partner accept me for what I am? Why should I always do something he/she likes? Why isn't it the other way round? ”

This is where reality strikes. The greatest mistake that many of us do is we love a person just because he/she loves us. How many times is a relationship both sided? It is simply reciprocation from the other side. who is looking for this? Be true. Love a person for what they actually are. Not for how they are to U.

Now, what to do when things break apart? Should we stay heart broke for ever for someone not meant for us? As the saying goes, “There are plenty of fish in the sea.” Life is short. Don’t squander time crying over someone who was meant to come into your life to just teach you something. There is always someone else waiting out there in the same boat as you. Who will fit you like how you are. Take your time and make the right choice.

Remember no matter how much you both are alike. Life is NILL without compromises.

Incomplete is the life of a man and a woman ‘made for each other’ without how much they ‘make’ for each other :)

2 comments:

Srini said...

man i just want to add that we have to make the right choices in love..
then we would not be troubled so much
but it is ok to make some wrong choices and learn from the experience..
enjoyed reading ur blog

NISHANT SAXENA said...

Very interesting read........ you seem to be someone with a matured thinking and deep understanding of human pschycology ........ May I know more about u and if you don't mind can we be friends......